4:34 Men are better and Women should obey
Buk
2558 women shoukd guard her husband home
33:33 stay in your home
Buk
5096 I have not left any trial more severe to men than women
Daw
2140 If I were to command to make prostration I would command women to prostrate before their husbands
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. - Quran An-Nisa(The Women) 4:34 (islam)
Chapter: The purchase of animals and donkeys
Narrated Jabir bin `Abdullah:
I was with the Prophet (ﷺ) in a Ghazwa (Military Expedition) and my camel was slow and exhausted. The Prophet came up to me and said, "O Jabir." I replied, "Yes?" He said, "What is the matter with you?" I replied, "My camel is slow and tired, so I am left behind." So, he got down and poked the camel with his stick and then ordered me to ride. I rode the camel and it became so fast that I had to hold it from going ahead of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) . He then asked me, have you got married?" I replied in the affirmative. He asked, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "I married a matron." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Why have you not married a virgin, so that you may play with her and she may play with you?" Jabir replied, "I have sisters (young in age) so I liked to marry a matron who could collect them all and comb their hair and look after them." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son)." Then he asked me, "Would you like to sell your camel?" I replied in the affirmative and the Prophet (ﷺ) purchased it for one Uqiya of gold. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) reached before me and I reached in the morning, and when I went to the mosque, I found him at the door of the mosque. He asked me, "Have you arrived just now?" I replied in the affirmative. He said, "Leave your camel and come into (the mosque) and pray two rak`at." I entered and offered the prayer. He told Bilal to weigh and give me one Uqiya of gold. So Bilal weighed for me fairly and I went away. The Prophet (ﷺ) sent for me and I thought that he would return to me my camel which I hated more than anything else. But the Prophet (ﷺ) said to me, "Take your camel as well as its price." - Hadith Al Bukhari 2097 (islam)
Hadith Al Bukhari 5367 (en en2) The Messenger of Allah said: Why did you not marry a virgin so that you could play with her?
My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "O
Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he
said, "Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her
and she amuse you." I said, " `Abdullah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl
like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them." On that he said, "May Allah
bless you," or "That is good." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5367 (islam)
Chapter: The slave is a guardian of the property of his master.
Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:
That he heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying, "Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charge; the ruler is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects; the man is a guardian in his family and responsible for his charges; a woman is a guardian of her husband's house and responsible for her charges; and the servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for his charge." I definitely heard the above from the Prophet (ﷺ) and think that the Prophet (ﷺ) also said, "A man is a guardian of his father's property and responsible for his charges; so everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges." - Hadith Al Bukhari 2558 (islam)
Hadith Al Bukhari 5195 (en en2) Submission and role (16) A wife should not allow anyone to enter his house except with the permission of her husband
Chapter: A woman should not allow anyone to enter the house except husband's consent (here too)
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5195 (islam)
Chapter: Recommendations with regard to Women
'Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he had heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, "Treat women kindly, they are like captives in your hands; you do not owe anything else from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing".
[At- Tirmidhi, who categorized it as Hadith Hasan Sahih].
- Hadith Riyad as-Salihin 276 (islam)
Quran Al-Ahzab(The Confederates) 33:33 (en en2 tfs tfs2) Submission and role (16) Abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as the display of the former times of ignorance
And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance. And establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity [of sin], O people of the [Prophet's] household, and to purify you with [extensive] purification. - Quran Al-Ahzab(The Confederates) 33:33 (islam)
Chapter: Recommendation to the one who sees a woman and is attracted to her, to go to his wife or slave woman and have intercourse with her
Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them:
The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart. - Hadith Muslim 1403a (islam)
Hadith Tirmidhi 1158 (en en2) Women advance and retire in the shape of a devil
Chapter: What has been related about a man who sees a woman and becomes fascinated with her
Jabir (bin Abdullah) narrated:
“The Prophet saw a woman, then he went to Zainab to fulfill his need and he left. He said: ‘Indeed when the woman enters, she enters in the image of Shaitan. So when one of you sees a woman that he is fascinated with, then let him go to his wife, for indeed with her (his wife) is the same as that which is with her.” - Hadith Tirmidhi 1158 (islam)
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. - Bible Genesis 3:16 (bible torah)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. - Bible 1 Corinthians 11:3 (bible)
[12]But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
[13]For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
[14]And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
[15]Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. - Bible 1 Timothy 2:12-15 (bible)
Bible 1 Timothy 2:9-11 (en) Submission and role (16) I want the women to dress modestly and learn in quietness and full submission
[9]In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
[10]But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
[11]Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. - Bible 1 Timothy 2:9-11 (bible)
Chapter: What evil omen of a lady is to be warded off
Narrated Usama bin Zaid:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "After me I have not left any trial more severe to men than women." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5096 (islam)
Chapter: The Rights That The Husband Has Over The Wife
Narrated Qays ibn Sa'd:
I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, so I said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (ﷺ), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Messenger of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. - Hadith Abu Dawud 2140 (islam)
As for a woman, if she needs to marry, it is recommended for her to do so, though if she does not, (0; not feeling any sexual desire within herself, and she is engaged in worship,) then it is offensive for her to do so. (N: Though such a woman needs a husband or unmarriageable relative to travel and so forth (dis: m10.3).)
DESIRABLE CHARACfERISTICS IN A BRIDE mlA It is recommended for a man to marry a virgin (0: unless there is a reason not to, such as sexual incapacity or needing someone to take care of his children) (A: though it is permissible to marry a nonvirgin even if she has not previously married (dis: p12.1(3(n:)))) who is fertile (0:
which in a virgin is inferable from her relatives), attractive, intelligent, religious, of a good family, and not a close relative. (0: In Sharh al-Minhaj, Ibn Hajar notes that when one must choose between the above characteristics, the order of preference should be:
(1) religiousness, which takes precedence over anything else;
(2) intelligence;
(3) a good character and disposition;
(4) fertility;
(5) a good family;
(6) virginity;
(7) beauty;
(8) and then that which fulfills some other relevant interest.)
* - Fiqh Umdat m1.3 (islam)
